After the Abuse

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This is the most detailed, thorough explanation of the emotional abuse one suffers at the hands of a narcissist. If you are suffering from this type of abuse, please listen: Their is nothing you can do to help this type of person. Stop putting yourself in danger by trying. Your good intentions will only backfire and you will be the one left more confused, more hurt, and more damaged. Protect yourself. No contact is the only way. 

The bible is clear on this. It doesn’t say to help them or to go to them in an attempt to heal the relationship. It says not to have anything to do with them. 

If after reading this article you find that you have been abused by a narcissist, let me know so I can pray for you. I have lived my entire life under this type of abuse and finding true, soul deep healing requires plugging in to the only one who can repair the damage that has been done: Jesus Christ. 

I want to close by praying for you. 

Sweet Jesus, please wrap your arms around your precious son or daughter that is reading this realizing maybe for the first time that they have been damaged at the hands of a narcissist. Please open their eyes to truth so that you can heal what only you can heal. Protect them from further abuse by equipping them with your armor, your shield of protection. In you precious and holy name, Amen!

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No Quick Fix

Today it has been brought to my attention that we live in a day and age where people want a quick fix for everything. If we are unhealthy financially, we turn to credit cards to bail us out. If we find ourselves unhealthy physically, we look for the newest miracle pill to get us back on track and expect the weight to fall off within days with no effort on our part. If we are spiritually unhealthy, we go to church and expect someone to greet us at the door, take us in and provide what we so desperately are longing for. 
Their are no quick fixes. Getting healthy in every area of life takes persistence, setting goals, changing our way of thinking and doing things that produce results. 
If you are struggling financially, start by assessing where you are right now. How much is coming in and how much is going out? If there is more going out than in, figure out where you can cut back to avoid drowning in debt. We live in America and we all can scale down tremendously if we really wanted to. 

If your struggle is physical, figure out what your goals are. If it is to lose weight, look at what you are eating. A simple change in your diet and a simple exercise regimen may be all you need to change your life. If it is to start developing healthier eating habits, start by determining what you need to say no to and get those foods out of the house! 

If you are searching for something deeper in your spiritual life go straight to the source of life, God’s Word. Church is an amazing place to hear His word but you have to get plugged in. You can’t go once a week for one hour and expect to walk away renewed until the following Sunday. A simple way to start is by listening to Christian music every time you are in your car. You will be amazed at how God uses music to feed our souls. Another way is to reach out to someone who is further along in their walk with Christ than you. Ask questions. Seek Godly counsel. And most importantly, start praying. Prayer is the most valuable tool Christians have and many don’t realize that all it takes is a few moments to cry out to God to start seeing Him move. 

Life is a journey and growth in every area takes effort. Without it, we are destined to remain stuck and will never reach our goals or live our lives to our full potential.

Comparison: The Joy Thief

 It has been brought to my attention that there is someone following me obsessively on Facebook. Some would say this is your standard form of stalking, which is defined as a pathological anonymous follower and tab-keeper of another person. I mention this for one reason only: To help those who suffer from the desire to compare. Keeping tabs on another person, regardless of the reason, only hurts the person that feels the need to know the details of someone else’s life. 

God created each of us in His perfect image. We are uniquely different and when we compare our lives, our looks, our jobs, our kids, our parenting styles, our houses, our cars, etc., we are ultimately revealing to God that we aren’t happy or grateful for what He has so generously blessed us with. And when and if we spend our time focusing on what we don’t have or the blessings others are receiving, we tend to lose sight of what God is doing in our own lives. God loves all of us equally. His blessings overflow but in order to recognize them, we must pay very close attention to our own lives and stop comparing. 
I am far from perfect, but I am made perfect in Christ. Without Him I am nothing and my fate is death. Thanks to Jesus, His mercies are new everyday and I can choose to wake up and live in regret or live focused on the amazing gifts my Heavenly Father is waiting patiently to give to me. 

So next time we (yes we…I too have been guilty of Facebook stalking) find Satan tempting us to see with his eyes, remember that he is the father of lies and his only desire is to steal, kill, and destroy. 
Dear God,

Give us a sense of peace. An understanding that surpasses everything we see from a human perspective, allowing us to see through your eyes. Reveal the unique blessings you have specifically chosen just for us, even though we didn’t deserve them. Heal our hearts so that the next time we decide to fall into Satan’s trap, we no longer feel the pains of envy or jealousy but instead, we feel a sincere joy for the blessings you provide to every brother and sister in Christ. 

After sharing this, I feel the need to close with this: If you just read this and have never accepted Christ into your heart or need to reignite your relationship with Jesus, please contact me. I want to pray that prayer with you. I can be reached via phone at 214-876-7539, by email at vautbunch@yahoo.com, or via messenger. God never meant for us to attempt to live this life alone. We all need Godly men and women surrounding us, giving us guidance and wisdom in areas where we struggle. We will have days of weakness and that is when we need our Christian friends and mentors the most.