Being a stay-at-home mom comes at a high cost, but it yields priceless rewards. Upon choosing to give up a career, you are guaranteed to lose the respect of those in the work place who value status and money over family. You will be criticized by those who don’t understand. Some will say that you are being lazy, thinking that you sit around watching soap operas all day while eating bonbons. I received an anonymous text message today saying, “Get a job you bum.” Every time I hear someone criticize not only me, but other women who make extreme sacrifices to put the needs of her children and family above her own, it breaks my heart.
Taking a leap of faith and reducing your household income to just one is not easy. It requires great sacrifice and commitment. But giving up “things” is worth it because by doing so you gain something much more valuable, time well spent raising your babies. You get the opportunity teach them. You get to witness every milestone first hand. You get the benefit of molding them into the man or woman they will become. Those are memories and moments no amount of money can buy.
And to those of you that look down upon us stay-at-home moms, maybe you should stop and ask yourself just one question. Why does it bother you?
To all of you stay-at-home moms out there, you deserve love and respect. There will always be someone who thinks you are a second class citizen because of the choice you have made, but who are they to judge? God is the only opinion that matters, so keep your head held high and know that the job you are doing is one of the most important jobs in the world.
WARNING: More is Caught than Taught!!!
Today as I was preparing my daily posts for my Facebook pages, I ran across this video. As I watched it, my heart was pained by the fact that we all have made stupid choices in front of our children at some point in our lives. As Christians we teach our kids to listen to what we say, often forgetting that our actions speak louder than our words. As my children get older, I have noticed some of the mistakes I made during the most painful years of my life have taken root in their hearts. Luckily God gave me His eyes and His heart during that time and made me aware of my own issues. Without that, I would still be indirectly teaching my kids behaviors that I would never want them to learn. Don’t get me wrong. I am in no way perfect now, but my heightened awareness allows me to see the areas where I need to grow and heal so that my kids don’t imitate my bad behaviors. If you are reading this and wonder how you can know if you are guilty of this, study your kids. They are mirror images of you. If they have a bad habit of being impatient, I would bet that one of their parents struggles with patience. If they have a low self-esteem, odds are a parent possesses that same trait. If your child is negative and sees life with a glass half empty mentality, they learned that from someone close to them that they watch every single day.
I know this is not easy to hear or to accept. As parents we want to raise perfect kids, but in reality that is not possible. No one is perfect and the ugly truth is that we all have baggage and bad behaviors that we caught from our parents, and them from their parents. But we can be the one who decides to make the necessary changes in our own hearts in order to foster an environment that encourages positive behaviors instead of passing on negative ones.
If today, for the first time, a lightbulb came on for you, know you are not alone. God is on your side and is right there waiting for you to ask him to start the healing process in your life. Trust Him!
Joshua 1:9 says, “Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid. God will be with you and will never forsake you.”
Thank you for sharing with us in ways that get our attention. As we strive to be better parents, give us the strength and courage to get honest about us so that we can model YOU to our children. We know that we can’t give away what we don’t have so fill us with You. Help us replace our old ways with Your ways. Thank you for giving us children and entrusting them to our care. Use them to reveal to us our hearts and open our eyes to the damage we are doing without even knowing what we are passing on.
In Your Precious & Holy Name,